tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post290483133023391994..comments2017-12-17T23:32:32.099-08:00Comments on ֍ Jah۞Sun's Omniverse ֎: Broken Hearts Are Made Of StoneDJ Omniverse (aka Jah۞Sun)http://www.blogger.com/profile/13949761588084777605noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-44376437268546069992012-08-29T05:18:41.234-07:002012-08-29T05:18:41.234-07:00Too true.
You pose a lot of poignant and powerful...Too true.<br /><br />You pose a lot of poignant and powerful questions. These are the kind of questions that you can ask yourself every day, and each day give yourself a different answer.<br /><br />I suppose the crass, logical way of looking at it is to ask a slightly different question... Is what is gained from such a monumental and potentially risky undertaking worth the amount of time, blood, sweat & tears that you have to invest in it?<br /><br />Pretty subjective stuff, and not stuff that has any clear "correct" answers. In the end we all have to follow our hearts, even if our hearts lead us into a more cool, detached perspective where we may decide, perhaps, not to play the game or pay its costs.<br /><br />At the very least, we should strive to be honest with ourselves and others, and not purposefully ignore evidence of other people's un-trustworthiness... especially not simply to prolong a fantasy or appease our sense of romance.<br /><br />Anyway, who knows? Thanks for your lovely comment.DJ Omniverse (aka Jah۞Sun)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13949761588084777605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-76366678402214657582012-08-25T10:04:15.911-07:002012-08-25T10:04:15.911-07:00Trust is a tricky thing isn't it? Hell, aren&#...Trust is a tricky thing isn't it? Hell, aren't relationships tricky things? To have one, to be in one where your hearts longing is truly met, don't love, trust and intimacy have to go together? If you want a real spiritual, physical and emotional relationship with someone, don't you have to let your guard down? Be vulnerable? It's a belief I think. A belief that you will and can unconditionally trust someone (especially through the very worst storms) and that they are not going to hurt you...betray you. I'm not saying that I have done any of it - it is hard after all! Attempted it? Yes. Or maybe I thought I was but never really quite got there. If you were to 'accomplish' all of these things, then what? Have you found your soulmate? Does such a thing even exist? Someone whose locks fit our keys and keys that fit our locks...when you feel safe enough that you can open yourself up to all of the endless possibilities and be honestly and completely who you are...Maybe 'tricky' isn't the right word in the end...it's a lot more complex than that!Shelley (svassall@yahoo.com)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-81178093227329463392012-08-25T09:28:43.627-07:002012-08-25T09:28:43.627-07:00Trust is a tricky thing isn't it? Hell, aren&#...Trust is a tricky thing isn't it? Hell, aren't relationships tricky things? To have one, to be in one where your hearts longing is truly met, don't love, trust and intimacy have to go together? If you want a real spiritual, physical and emotional relationship with someone, don't you have to let your guard down? Be vulnerable? It's a belief I think. A belief that you will and can unconditionally trust someone (especially through the very worst storms) and that they are not going to hurt you...betray you. I'm not saying that I have done any of it - it is hard after all! Attempted it? Yes. Or maybe I thought I was but never really quite got there. If you were to 'accomplish' all of these things, then what? Have you found your soulmate? Does such a thing even exist? Someone whose locks fit our keys and keys that fit our locks...when you feel safe enough that you can open yourself up to all of the endless possibilities and be honestly and completely who you are...Maybe 'tricky' isn't the right word in the end...it's a lot more complex than that!Shelley (svassall@yahoo.com)noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-47395913021989943312012-08-14T10:02:29.004-07:002012-08-14T10:02:29.004-07:00No, no... by all means. Go on as long as you like...No, no... by all means. Go on as long as you like. I'm ecstatic to have an actual conversation going on here. Until now, this blog has mostly been like pontificating in an empty bathroom--with the echo of your own voice off the tiles and mirrors as a peanut gallery.<br /><br />Heheheh.<br /><br />I agree with you about forgiveness. It is hard though. Especially because those people that require the most forgiveness... are the very ones that don't actually deserve it. Furthermore, plenty of people see forgiveness as a sign of weakness, and an invitation to come in and walk all over you.<br /><br />Still, I have come to understand that forgiveness is not so much for the one you are forgiving, but for yourself. It allows you to let go of shit and return to being a loving human being. Not forgiving is what hardens the heart.<br /><br />It's tough. I suppose it works out that one often has to forgive someone while letting them go. Resist that mighty urge for justice. And yet, it often takes the most courage and honesty to push someone out of your life if they are consistently dragging you down.<br /><br />The Beatles sang "We Can Work It Out" (Stevie Wonder tore that tune up as well: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dL1GzbUdtfg ), but even that wise jam starts out with "Try to see things MY way." ;-) In the end, it is as Lennon & McCartney said in the middle 8 "Life is very short, and there's no time for fussing & fighting my friend..."<br /><br />So, if the loss of trust in a relationship is resulting in too much fussing and fighting, it is generally better to give up on trying to work things out, and just wipe the slate clean. While we are busy trying to duct tape a battered relationship back together, we could have maybe been out finding someone more suited to accompany us on this leg of our life's journey.<br /><br />Anyway, now i'm going on too long myself. Be well, and thanks for sharing your thoughts.DJ Omniverse (aka Jah۞Sun)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13949761588084777605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-90882658968973220032012-08-14T08:42:14.166-07:002012-08-14T08:42:14.166-07:00Hi - me again! I so agree with what you say about...Hi - me again! I so agree with what you say about this being a complex issue. Having just read back through my earlier reply I can see that I didn't really word it as well as I could have done! Suffice to say that I think it is important that we at least try to trust one another, no matter how often that trust is broken. Eventually you will stumble across someone who is also looking for someone they can trust, and you will be complete. For me, trust isn't broken by things that are obviously mistakes or simple thoughtlessness but by things that are done deliberately, with the purpose being to hurt or betray. I like to think that the flip side of trust is forgiveness and for each of us our level or degree of forgiveness is different, therefore our level of trust will also differ. The trick is to find someone whose levels are similar to yours ... Wow - a complex issue indeed! Thank you for making me think about this, and so sorry if I've gone on for too long!! xxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-38790550792313046872012-08-13T11:56:41.169-07:002012-08-13T11:56:41.169-07:00Thanks for that reply. I appreciate your perspect...Thanks for that reply. I appreciate your perspective.<br /><br />Hard to say if we are hard-wired to trust though... the world is filled with a lot of mistrust. Among friends, family, social constructs, nations etc. Pretty much at every level of human interaction as far as I can tell.<br /><br />Relationships are where we tend to open ourselves up the most, and become most vulnerable. But we all know that most people disarm themselves slowly, and leave plenty of defenses in place. Most lovers I have come across have a fair bit of jealousy and suspicion going on.<br /><br />Being imperfect certainly doesn't equal being untrustworthy... but it doesn't help either. When you know that another has weaknesses, you also know that they might make mistakes they will regret... like hurting or betraying you.<br /><br />This is complex, and I believe in trusting... if only because it brings out the best in us.<br /><br />Thanks again for your comment. It means a lot.DJ Omniverse (aka Jah۞Sun)https://www.blogger.com/profile/13949761588084777605noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-191879015360249620.post-75139453624740099992012-08-13T10:49:02.272-07:002012-08-13T10:49:02.272-07:00I believe that we have to trust in each other - im...I believe that we have to trust in each other - implicitly - if we're not to go through life feeling bitter and cynical and unhappy. I also think that once that trust is broken, the relationship is broken, and it's time to move on. We are social animals, and I think we're hard-wired to trust, which is why your heart makes it gradually easier to start over. I don't think you get used to your trust being broken, I think you're right in saying that it just makes us more aware that no-one is perfect, but this doesn't in itself make anyone untrustworthy. I have rambled on. I do hope this helps!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com